Updated: September 27, 2021
Taking control of our finances can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be says Thasunda Duckett, Chief Executive Officer of Chase Consumer Banking.
In this TED video, you can watch Thasunda Duckett as she gives tips on how to minimize shame around money and start having honest conversations about how to save.
Or if you prefer reading, then the transcript is posted below.
How to Improve your Relationship with Money
1. Talk about it.
You can’t do it alone. And that’s when your squad has to come in. It’s taboo. We typically don’t talk about our stresses when it comes to money. We need to come together as a group of friends, with no judgment, no shame. Celebrate the fact that we’ve made a decision that we want to have a better relationship with money. That is worth applauding or snapping your fingers about.
Once you’ve done that, then you get real. Nothing should be off-limits. Where does this relationship come from? Why am I spending all this money on things that don’t align with my goals? What are your fears? What are your hopes? What are your dreams? But then we start to take action. What can we do this week? Or what can we do this month?
2. Understand what money is.
Money is not the end-all-be-all. It’s the mechanism to accomplish whatever your goals are. It does not define you. It’s just a mechanism to accomplish what matters to you most.
3. Identify what matters to you…
Ask yourself one fundamental question: what are you saving for? If you’re saving for a car, if you’re saving to pay down your debt, if you’re saving for that rainy day fund, it will include short-term goals and it will include long-term goals.
4. … and then really picture it.
Visualize what you’re trying to accomplish. A vision board is a visual representation of what you’re saving for. So if we break it down, go get a poster board. Get your markers, get your glitter. Take magazine pictures, cut it all out. Have that picture of that great trip. Have the picture of you paying down your student debt.
The vision board sounds like, “Oh, how can that help?” The point is your goals need to align with your behaviors, and the vision board is a representation of where you wanna go and then how you live your life, and in the meantime are the steps to get there.
5. It’s not what you make, it’s what you keep.
It’s not about what you make, it’s about what you keep. It’s about understanding do I have the ability with what I’m making to take care of my basic needs? And if not, what adjustments do I need to make? And then we start to break it down and talk about the tools.
We start to say, “Do we have our savings account, auto-save?” Set it and forget it, or every day, put a dollar a day. Whatever that rhythm is for you, the goal is the rhythm, not the amount. You can start slow. You can start small, but you have to start now. And then let me give you a trick, we all have impulses.
Many times, because the phone is always with us, we start shopping. Go out to any site, shop up, put it in your cart. Just don’t hit buy. Wait 24 hours, go back and ask yourself, “Do I really need it? What about these items map to my goal?” And if it’s nothing, hit delete and you got your fix.
6. Be good to yourself.
It’s also important to know that your self-worth is not determined by your net worth. This is something that we can do better about. You celebrate your wins. And when you make that misstep, no judgment, no shame. Just get back at it.
One more thing…
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