Updated: August 25, 2019
A few days ago, I asked my friends about finances and romantic relationships.
I gave them several questions that went something like, “Would you rather have money problems or love problems?” and “Which would you choose, that you have no money or no love life?”
The answers were quite interesting.
From experience, I noticed that most serious conversations among close friends are either that of money or of love.
Someone could be trying to borrow cash or venting out his financial frustrations. Or they may be sharing some love problems and seeking some relationship advise.
Try to think about it and tell me if you’d agree.
In any case, I’d like to share some of the answers I received. See if any of them would reflect your own opinion regarding this matter.
I’d rather have money problems than love problems.
The common belief among those who chose to have financial difficulties rather than relationship problems is that money problems are easier to solve.
Ed says that you can ask for money, but you can’t easily ask other people to love you. Arpee puts it in another way by saying that money can be borrowed, earned and even stolen, [but] love lost is lost forever.
Some of my friends, including BigueÃ±a and Karen likewise agree that having money problems is better than having heartaches. A few of the other arguments presented were:
- Money doesn’t seem to matter much when you’re in love.
- Having a partner means you have someone to help you financially.
- When you’re romantically involved, you tend to be inspired in your work.
I’d rather have no love life rather than have no money.
The answers on the other side of the coin also share some common points. The number one reason being that it’s easier to live life without love rather than without money.
Micamyx and Ria both say that they’re fine with having no love life as long as their finances are okay. However, Miii gave a different reasoning by saying that she’d rather have love problems because she believes in retail therapy. So if she has no money to spend for shopping, then that’s even more sad.
Furthermore, Urbanguru shares that it’s okay to have no love life because he’s used to having none anyway (awww… ) while Poytee kiddingly argued that she’ll just buy love. Other reasons given for choosing love problems over money problems were:
- Practically speaking, you cannot live without money but you can definitely live even without romantic love.
- Money problems are more serious in a pragmatic sense, that’s why I don’t want it.
- In this world, you do need money to make a romantic relationship grow and survive.
How about you? Which situation would you rather choose?
Please note that I do not wish to oversimplify matters and I actually believe that love and money are indeed heavily interrelated (something that Dimaks also believes).
That’s why regardless of which side you’re on, it is more important to look behind everyone’s reasoning and realize the lessons being presented.
One is that unlike romantic relationships, our personal finance is something we have a lot of control on.
Love problems usually have complicated solutions while in most cases, budgeting and saving are all we need to go through financial difficulties.
Moreover, it is essential to see that if our finances are good, then we can focus more on finding and nurturing romance in our lives.
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