Updated: March 22, 2021
This was the sentiment of a friend to which I could do nothing but smile and give a pat on his back.
“I want to be rich so I can help my family.”
A sole breadwinner, a determined and focused individual, he has set aside most of his personal dreams just to provide food and shelter for his family.
“I want to be rich so I can help my family.”
Was this said out of frustration? Out of exhaustion? I don’t really know, but it certainly made me wonder how many others are out there like him.
“I want to be rich so I can help my family.”
Is this you?
It’s very noble to want to provide for one’s family; whether it is out of responsibility, out of gratitude, out of love, or for whatever other reason.
However, I believe that it’s important to always remember that one should also provide for oneself.
If there’s one piece of advice that I would give all the breadwinners out there, it would be to never lose yourself.
Work can be overwhelming, even frustrating and exhausting. And it’s not always easy to follow our dreams without thinking about their financial consequences.
How many times have you caught yourself saying:
“I wish I had another job, but this one pays well and my family is depending on me.”
“When my brother/sister finishes college and finds a job, then I can finally start following my dreams.”
I believe that our genuine desire to help and provide for our family should not interfere with our own self-fulfillment.
Find a way to make them complement each other or set time for yourself to do the things you enjoy most. You’ll be amazed at how much motivation and inspiration you’ll experience.
Rid yourself of self-pity and take a positive outlook on life. Surround yourself with happy people. Forget the things you failed to do, just take the lesson and carry on.
Write down your goals and read it everyday. Affirm yourself as often as you can. Learn to forgive. Share your blessings. And LOVE… especially yourself.
You are not being selfish. I believe that it is far from it. Loving oneself is essential for loving others.
If you don’t know your own value, then you won’t be proud to share it with others for you cannot give what you don’t have.
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And most specially somebody who are making money for their family should be happy on what they are doing and not only forced to do so
It is so sad to see so many people struggling to make money, which is why I put together a training program to specifically help low income earners in Manila.
It would be great to see more abundance in the country and your site will surely help this goal.
I don’t agree that helping one’s family is a misdirected goal. Many of the most successful entrepreneurs in today’s economy are people whose vision looks far beyond themselves.
I Know the feeling.
And i totally agree with you kuya Fritz. pero minsan talaga di maiwasan ang self pity.
“Duty does not require any person to submit to the destruction of his personal ambitions and the right to live his own life in his own way.”
-Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich.
I think the feeling is mutual kuya fitz so I wanted to research more to help my self and other fellow filipino breadwinners to lighten the weight that they carry on their back.
I sincerely thank you for inspiring me as I’ve read your posts.
Thank you and more power!
@Dexter
Yes, that should be the case. But sometimes, your family can take you for granted and that’s when some people feel “unhappy” being a breadwinner. In this case, one should be open and tell them that once in a while, he/she wants to feel appreciated. 😀
@Christian
Helping one’s family financially is definitely not a misdirected goal. But sometimes, breadwinners want to feel appreciated. Other times, they just feel tired and frustrated. That is why it’s important to also give importance to one’s self-fulfillment because it gives us energy and inspiration to do more.
Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts. 🙂
Money is the root of all evil? Sounds familiar?
Everybody needs to be rich with one goal in mind: helping the generation of wealth unto others. If every Filipino would start getting converted into that mindset then our topics wouldn’t be about wanting to be rich but rather wanting to let others be rich. Unfortunately, this is hardly happening generally, hence, your wonderful topic about wanting to be rich to help the family.
I need help for christmas
Money is not the root of all evil…It’s the lack of money which is the root of all evil =)
HE who has a WHY to live, could bare just about any HOW.
Man O’ Man did you nail it with this article Fitz. If you destroy yourself or allow others to destroy you financially, then your ability to help others will be compromised. Family helping out family is something that has both impressed me and greatly saddened me over my seven years and counting here in the Philippines. It is wonderful to help when there is a genuine need and your financial house is in order. The opposite side is that perpetual problem person that will just sit there expecting a hard working individual to stuff more and more money into their pockets.