Be Extraordinary: 8 Steps To Living The Life You’ve Always Wanted

Updated: February 11, 2023

Are you bored with your daily routine? Tired of doing the same things, day in and day out? Are you unhappy with how life is treating you? And wish that everything could be different?

If your answer to most of these is YES, then you have a bad case of being ordinary.

There is nothing wrong with you, and you’re not the only person who feels this way about themself.

Most people live exactly this kind of life – but that’s because they choose to be ordinary.

But why be ordinary when you can be extraordinary, right?

If you want more excitement, more variety, more happiness, and more things to happen for you, then just follow this 8-step guide on how to add that “extra” to your ordinary life.


8 Steps To Living The Life You’ve Always Wanted

Step 1: Dream big.
Everything starts with a dream. And when you dream, always dream big. Make it so big it scares you. But more than that, believe that you can do it. Own it and tell yourself you deserve it.

When people discourage and tell you that your dream is ridiculously impossible to achieve, remember that more than 50 years ago, everyone thought it was ridiculously impossible for man to go to the moon.

Step 2: Set the wheels in motion.
They say the best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up. This simply means you have to stop wishing and start acting.

Learn the essential tools, practice, and hone your craft. Stop procrastinating, don’t waste your time with the unnecessary. Remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Step 3: Keep moving forward.
In pursuing a dream, there is always a point when everything will seem hopeless.

There’s always a time when you start to question and doubt yourself. “This is not going to happen. I can’t do it,” you might say.

This is the time when most people quit and go back to their ordinary lives. For you, it’s simply a time to rest.

Stop and look back at how far away you’ve already gone, don’t you want to see what lies ahead for you next? Yes, you do, that’s why you’ll keep on moving forward.

Step 4: Stretch your limits.
The only way to grow is to push yourself beyond your known limits. Train and practice. Face your fears. Break your own records.

Allow yourself to be uncomfortable, don’t be afraid of it. Because every time you do, you are changing your world, you are leaving ordinary, and becoming extraordinary.

Step 5: Make the sacrifice.
We all make sacrifices to get the things we want. You may not always notice it, but it’s how the universe keeps balance. When you begin to understand this law, letting go of things that tether you to an ordinary life becomes easier.

This sacrifice could be your time, your money, your present comfort levels, or your current material possessions. Sometimes, it could even be your relationships. Be willing to pay the price, because it’s always worth it in the end.

Step 6: Seize opportunities.
Open your eyes to the new world you’re creating and see that it is a world abundant in opportunities. You’ve come a long way, and you’re prepared now, more than ever, to make your dreams a reality.

When you let go of the old and ordinary you, then you’re slowly becoming the new and extraordinary version of yourself. You’ve learned to say “NO” in the previous step, now it’s time to say “YES” to the life you deserve.


Step 7: Build relationships.
The happiest and most successful people on Earth are those who are always surrounded by those who love and support them. End your destructive relationships and build authentic ones that reward you with positivity.

But more than this, be an extraordinary influence to others and help them to be the success that you are becoming. Share your blessings and you’ll see that life will give you more.

Step 8: Be extraordinary.
How do you transform your ordinary life into an extraordinary adventure that everyone would want to live? By living true to your passion and pursuing dreams that ordinary people don’t even dare to dream.

Realize that being extraordinary simply means logging in the extra hours to make it happen. Being extraordinary doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s not an easy ride to take. But it is the only way to live the life you’ve wanted, the life you deserve.

Remember that an extraordinary life is a result of inspiration, determination, focus, patience, sacrifice, optimism, passion, and a conscious decision to be more than ordinary.

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  1. I believe I hit on all 8 points that you’ve given in my quest to be extraordinary and become a location independent freelancer living in Thailand. It took 4 1/2 years, long hours of work and sacrifices and in the end it was totally worth it. The thing is, because I was chasing a dream none of the work or sacrifices seemed like a big deal at the time.

  2. What a timely article! I’m actually planning to learning a craft that I’ve dreamed on doing but I always second guessed myself. Thanks for the motivation!

  3. Thanks for posting, sometimes I forget. Successful people always say do what you love and never give up….


  4. Good points. About sacrificing relationships, a word of caution here. Sacrificing your family is too high a price to pay. You can say goodbye to friends going nowhere for a season, but your family has to be carried along. No prize is worth the price of sacrificing your relationship with your spouse and children

  5. Thank you Sir Fitz for the easy to understand steps. We are all born to live extraordinary lives but we have to choose this path and live up to it, will ourselves to really attain that extraordinary life we have always pictured.

  6. i cant remember when I read this the first time, i just know this post has made a difference in my life. thank you for your blog fitz!

  7. …end your destructive relationship… ouch it is just lame when people hold on to you because they’re benefiting from you..

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