Money Problems Versus Love Problems
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The answers were quite interesting.
From experience, I noticed that most serious conversations among close friends are either that of money or of love. Someone could be trying to borrow cash or venting out his financial frustrations. Or they may be sharing some love problems and seeking some relationship advise.
Try to think about it and tell me if you’d agree. In any case, I’d like to share some of the answers I received. See if any of them would reflect your own opinion regarding this matter.
I’d rather have money problems than love problems.
The common belief among those who chose to have financial difficulties rather than relationship problems is that money problems are easier to solve. Ed says that you can ask for money, but you can’t easily ask other people to love you. Arpee puts it in another way by saying that money can be borrowed, earned and even stolen, [but] love lost is lost forever.
Some of my friends, including Bigueña and Dementia likewise agree that having money problems is better than having heartaches. A few of the other arguments presented were:
- Money doesn’t seem to matter much when you’re in love.
- Having a partner means you have someone to help you financially.
- When you’re romantically involved, you tend to be inspired in your work.
I’d rather have no love life rather than have no money.
The answers on the other side of the coin also share some common points. The number one reason being that it’s easier to live life without love rather than without money. Micamyx and Ria both say that they’re fine with having no love life as long as their finances are okay. However, Miii gave a different reasoning by saying that she’d rather have love problems because she believes in retail therapy. So if she has no money to spend for shopping, then that’s even more sad.
Furthermore, Urbanguru shares that it’s okay to have no love life because he’s used to having none anyway (awww… ) while Poytee kiddingly argued that she’ll just buy love. 
Other reasons given for choosing love problems over money problems were:
- Practically speaking, you cannot live without money but you can definitely live even without romantic love.
- Money problems are more serious in a pragmatic sense, that’s why I don’t want it.
- In this world, you do need money to make a romantic relationship grow and survive.
How about you? Which situation would you rather choose?
Please note that I do not wish to oversimplify matters and I actually believe that love and money are indeed heavily interrelated (something that Dimaks also believes). That’s why regardless of which side you’re on, it is more important to look behind everyone’s reasoning and realize the lessons being presented.
One is that unlike romantic relationships, our personal finance is something we have full control of. Love problems usually have complicated solutions while in most cases, budgeting and saving are all we need to go through financial difficulties. Moreover, it is essential to see that if our finances are good, then we can focus more on finding and nurturing romance in our lives.
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Hi, my name is Fitz and this is my blog on personal finance.
For me it is better to have money problem than Love problem. If it is money there are lots of banks, Financers, friendsets.. that you can lean to..
But with Love problem it is very hard to heal..
Nice post Fitz
Oi.. I never knew that that plurk question would turn into a love-link post hehe.. nevertheless, very well elucidated post and I have stated my idea
Interesting question! I prefer to have money problems, because that’s something you can fix yourself - regardless of what your lovelife is like. But if it’s love problems, another person is involved and you have no control over it.
Besides, kung wala akong pera, maraming talbos ng kamote sa labas na pwede ko kainin! Hehehe.
Interesting. I think I would rather have money problems than love problems. Mas nakakaloka pag heartaches na eh.
@Dex
I also would prefer to have money problems than love problems. Money problems challenges me to work and move, while love problems just makes me want to stay in bed the whole day.
@dimaks
Thanks for answering my plurk.
@Frugal Pinoy
Yup, that’s something I love about the Philippines. Madaling mabuhay kahit walang pera. Hehe.
@Laarni
I agree. Heartaches affects us more.
“it is essential to see that if our finances are good, then we can focus more on finding and nurturing romance in our lives.” -I completely agree with this Fitz.
as of now, i’m enjoying the “kilig” moments with my boyfriend. we just started the relationship almost three months ago. and if you would ask me, i’d rather have money problems than love problems now. take note: hypothetical lang po. Sana naman di ako magkaproblema sa pera sa mga darating na araw, buwan at taon.
Tama nga sila, mas madaling lutasin ang problema sa pera kasi material lang naman ito, but love? Naku… mahirap yata problemahin yan. Kasi ako, pag nagka-heartache… nagsa-shopping, gumigimik, nag-iinom, nanonood ng sine, nagfu-foodtrip, nag-a-out of town, naglalagalag… at hindi lang ako mag-isa, nagsasama ako ng friend/s. xempre sagot ko sila sa expenses dahil isinama ko sila sa pagsisentimiento ko. mas magastos yata un. baka mamroblema din ako sa pera kapag namroblema ako sa puso, db?
kaya sige, money problem nalang ang pipiliin kong magkaroon ako. at least, happy ang love life ???
Interesting question, Fitz. I would prefer having love problems kasi yung money problems sawa na ako e. Bata pa lang ako, problema ko na yun.
I was once broken hearted when I was younger and still single, and I thought ikakabaliw ko na, di naman pala. Actually, eto ako at masaya sa piling ng asawa ko after 12 years of marriage.
Although pwedeng utangin yung pera pag walang wala ka, nakakasawa din.
Yung love problems, kaya mo nang i-solve pag nalagpasa mo na ng isang beses.
Just my thoughts though.
Thanks!
@Lee Angelo
Thanks, that’s me talking from personal experience.
@Nicely
Yup, I agree. Parang mas magastos nga kapag may love problems. Hehe.
@Angel
Nice to hear from you again. I believe it’s also the same for money problems, it gets easier as you learn to cope with your finances. You’ll tend to handle future financial obstacles better than before.
Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts.