Comments on: How To Make Friends Pay Back The Money They Owe You

By: lost_money

lost_money — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 15:18:47 +0000

some people donno the value of money and don’t deserve anything in life!

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By: Pauline C

Pauline C — Wed, 28 Mar 2012 15:07:54 +0000

Hi Rob, God its so hard to say no when we have been childhood friends for years! It hurts when your close friends take our kindness as weakness. They disappeared once we lent money! But still I will try to say NO. Today is already 28 March 2012 n still no calls not even a simple sms from him that he will pay me back. Oh Unyo,I cant bear to see broken body parts – too gruesome. Anyway, I am very broken up already from not receiving the money he promised to pay in less den a month ie by 15 March. I in turn avoid calling or visiting my mum cos I don’t have the S$1K to give her. I have not been working for 2yrs already so I had to scrimped daily from the S$500 my husband gave me monthly for my 4kids expenses n myself expenses etc to reach S$1K in 10months to give my mum. I really need my S$1K back. I dare not tell my husband I lent my stupid friend money or he will kill me for being too naive. It really hurts to be nice.

By: Unyo

Unyo — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:52:04 +0000

well this is one way to get even with your swindler ‘friends’. tell them that you are giving your receivable to the local siga in their neighborhood. the local siga can collect however he likes–it’s him they will owe now. broken fingers, broken ribs, broken kneecaps—your swindler friends’ choice. it’d be nice to videotape the collection process, so you can watch it over and over and over on youtube…ang have a good laugh each time. a childhood friend of mine, after tracking me down on facebook, borrowed money. a year later, she has wan-tu-tri and vanished into thin air. i pray to God that someone will find her laying in a ditch, half-eaten by worms. may Satan take her soul. God bless me for my squandered cash.

By: rob

rob — Sun, 18 Mar 2012 07:01:07 +0000

I been a victim of this a few times and have learned my lesson, I will never lend money to friends ever again and I don’t care how bad they need it. I use to feel bad about saying no when asked to loan a few dollars and I honestly can’t remember if anyone has ever paid me back. I have no problem saying no anymore, I never ask anyone to lend me money before and I shouldn’t have to help out someone who is irresponsible, let them blow they’re money and suffer….how else will these assholes learn. If you are like me and have a hard time saying NO just tell them you are broke every time they ask…trust me they will stop asking eventually and move on to the next victim…I tell everyone I’m broke and I owe a lot of nice things and I don’t care if that makes them wonder lol

By: Pauline C

Pauline C — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 13:27:22 +0000

I surfed the net cos I jus cant focus on my studies for a state exam tomorrow. Yesterday would have been I mth exactly that my friend said he would pay me back the $S1K he borrowed on 15Feb 2012. Previous times, he had borrowed n returned on time n on one occasion he still owed me $270 from the $1K he borrowed. He asometimes asked for $1.5K but I told him ATM can only dispensed $1K n he’s OK with that. I tried man times to teach him hw to spend within his means or jus hint to him but he just shrugged it off. He havent paid me the $4995 he borrowed baCk in 2004. Can Someone pls tell me wat to do. The latest $1K I loaned him on 15Feb 2012 was meant for m mum. He said his case was more important n that he would pay me on time. How now?

By: Lee

Lee — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 07:21:31 +0000

help!
a friend borrowed a serious amount of money from me,
he took advantage and came to me when I was vulnerable and really needing a friend to talk to about other matters and I was seriously exhausted. Then he basically stayed away from me after that, avoide me… didn’t mentione the money thing until the month that it was due, 3 months later… and after that he changed his number and won’t answer my previous calls or emails. etc….
I went to the house and his family tells me to leave.
I loaned him taht money out of the kindess of my heart and the trust that it would be paid back or at least trusted that he would communicate with me,, offer something,, no matter how small evem of if it was 10 dollars a month… and he knows I need the money and I explained that the failure to repay the loan has put my life and healthy in jeopardy many times and has causes sad consequences.. causing me a great deal of stress..

It seems that he took the money and ran,,, and disregarded my personal well being… it seems i will never see the money.
I can’t call cuz he changed his number ( has done that before to avoid people or companies calling)..

I am very hurt. and the consequences of the times that I have needed that money .. have resulted in very very hard times for me.

yes I know I should have not and never will loan money again. I learned my lesson so please dont’ point out the lessons i have learned.. I got that part down..

but what are some legal ways for revenge? legal and safe..
forget small claimes,, I did that,, he did not show up, judgement against him.. but that does not get my money back .

lets be creative.

this person is trash for what he did to me.

please help me find safe and legal ways of revenge.

forget wage garnish,, he works under the table.

help!

By: Cleese78

Cleese78 — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 05:03:27 +0000

I had a friend once who needed $500 to pay off his rent. I kindly obliged. Granted, I had the “more than friends” feelings towards this person and jumped to the opportunity to hand it to him. However, I ensured a promissory note was signed with terms and conditions with a payback date was drawn up. I had not seen a dime for months until I had threatened him with the note. I had only seen half of this wired over to me. It is now over 2.5 years and I have still not seen the full amount – although he jumped to the opportunity to pay it after I had called the friendship off. It was a true power stance for him and I was tired of feeling my blood boil everytime I talked with him and nothing was brought up by him at all for the amount that was owed. To me it wasn’t about the money, it was about the principle – not taking accountability or responsibility and taking the friendship for granted. I was not respected and valued as as friend. I am a good person and felt it was time to take a stance against these assholes who step all over good people like us. Funny – He insisted at paying me back after continuously texting me and I finally told him that if it will make him feel better to send the cheque in the mail. That was 6 months ago and no cheque. Turns out he needed the money for his cocaine habit he had to keep up. Oh well. My advice – go ahead and lend the money – which is a true test of friendship – if they pay it back – they are worth keeping. If they do not – you will know they were never a friend to begin with. I am glad I was able to see this through this unfortunate way.

By: purple

purple — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 04:10:06 +0000

for your peace of mind, give it as financial assistance whatever you can afford, sort of a compromise; tell your friend to just pay when he is able to. although at the back of your mind, it would not be returned. then just observe..or maybe simply forget all about it.. expect a return engagement because there are people who abuse..then if it seems to appear that way, this particular friend maybe beginning to be a pain in your neck….think it over

By: denise

denise — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:37:26 +0000

I am in this situation now. I suggest when weighing the option of loaning someone some money you should think about if they had the money to pay back then they would not be asking you for it. Also think about the fact that there are other options. One could set up a payment plan, they could take out a loan, they could exaust other options. Think about the what would they do if you were not here or around? How would they get the money? They will find a way. Also you should think about the amount of money you are trying to lend out. Can you really afford it if they dont give it back, i COULDN’T. Luckily I did the transaction on my card and was able to dispute the charge with the bank. So i basically took legal action. But you have to weigh if that is worth it or not.

My advice, if you have to ponder it a lot and worry if you are going to get it back, you might not want to loan the money. Go with your gut!

Good Luck.

By: dan

dan — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 21:55:54 +0000

cause damage to property which amounts to a similar value that the person owes you, just make sure you are smart – dont get caught. If they wont pay up atleast you’ll get satisfaction of knowing they have to cough that money up for something hahah