Comments on: How To Make Friends Pay Back The Money They Owe You http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html Business, Investments and Personal Finance Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:00:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lee http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html#comment-73087 Lee Mon, 30 Jan 2012 07:21:31 +0000 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/?p=871#comment-73087 help! a friend borrowed a serious amount of money from me, he took advantage and came to me when I was vulnerable and really needing a friend to talk to about other matters and I was seriously exhausted. Then he basically stayed away from me after that, avoide me... didn't mentione the money thing until the month that it was due, 3 months later... and after that he changed his number and won't answer my previous calls or emails. etc.... I went to the house and his family tells me to leave. I loaned him taht money out of the kindess of my heart and the trust that it would be paid back or at least trusted that he would communicate with me,, offer something,, no matter how small evem of if it was 10 dollars a month... and he knows I need the money and I explained that the failure to repay the loan has put my life and healthy in jeopardy many times and has causes sad consequences.. causing me a great deal of stress.. It seems that he took the money and ran,,, and disregarded my personal well being... it seems i will never see the money. I can't call cuz he changed his number ( has done that before to avoid people or companies calling).. I am very hurt. and the consequences of the times that I have needed that money .. have resulted in very very hard times for me. yes I know I should have not and never will loan money again. I learned my lesson so please dont' point out the lessons i have learned.. I got that part down.. but what are some legal ways for revenge? legal and safe.. forget small claimes,, I did that,, he did not show up, judgement against him.. but that does not get my money back . lets be creative. this person is trash for what he did to me. please help me find safe and legal ways of revenge. forget wage garnish,, he works under the table. help! help!
a friend borrowed a serious amount of money from me,
he took advantage and came to me when I was vulnerable and really needing a friend to talk to about other matters and I was seriously exhausted. Then he basically stayed away from me after that, avoide me… didn’t mentione the money thing until the month that it was due, 3 months later… and after that he changed his number and won’t answer my previous calls or emails. etc….
I went to the house and his family tells me to leave.
I loaned him taht money out of the kindess of my heart and the trust that it would be paid back or at least trusted that he would communicate with me,, offer something,, no matter how small evem of if it was 10 dollars a month… and he knows I need the money and I explained that the failure to repay the loan has put my life and healthy in jeopardy many times and has causes sad consequences.. causing me a great deal of stress..

It seems that he took the money and ran,,, and disregarded my personal well being… it seems i will never see the money.
I can’t call cuz he changed his number ( has done that before to avoid people or companies calling)..

I am very hurt. and the consequences of the times that I have needed that money .. have resulted in very very hard times for me.

yes I know I should have not and never will loan money again. I learned my lesson so please dont’ point out the lessons i have learned.. I got that part down..

but what are some legal ways for revenge? legal and safe..
forget small claimes,, I did that,, he did not show up, judgement against him.. but that does not get my money back .

lets be creative.

this person is trash for what he did to me.

please help me find safe and legal ways of revenge.

forget wage garnish,, he works under the table.

help!

]]> By: Cleese78 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html#comment-68712 Cleese78 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 05:03:27 +0000 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/?p=871#comment-68712 I had a friend once who needed $500 to pay off his rent. I kindly obliged. Granted, I had the "more than friends" feelings towards this person and jumped to the opportunity to hand it to him. However, I ensured a promissory note was signed with terms and conditions with a payback date was drawn up. I had not seen a dime for months until I had threatened him with the note. I had only seen half of this wired over to me. It is now over 2.5 years and I have still not seen the full amount - although he jumped to the opportunity to pay it after I had called the friendship off. It was a true power stance for him and I was tired of feeling my blood boil everytime I talked with him and nothing was brought up by him at all for the amount that was owed. To me it wasn't about the money, it was about the principle - not taking accountability or responsibility and taking the friendship for granted. I was not respected and valued as as friend. I am a good person and felt it was time to take a stance against these assholes who step all over good people like us. Funny - He insisted at paying me back after continuously texting me and I finally told him that if it will make him feel better to send the cheque in the mail. That was 6 months ago and no cheque. Turns out he needed the money for his cocaine habit he had to keep up. Oh well. My advice - go ahead and lend the money - which is a true test of friendship - if they pay it back - they are worth keeping. If they do not - you will know they were never a friend to begin with. I am glad I was able to see this through this unfortunate way. I had a friend once who needed $500 to pay off his rent. I kindly obliged. Granted, I had the “more than friends” feelings towards this person and jumped to the opportunity to hand it to him. However, I ensured a promissory note was signed with terms and conditions with a payback date was drawn up. I had not seen a dime for months until I had threatened him with the note. I had only seen half of this wired over to me. It is now over 2.5 years and I have still not seen the full amount – although he jumped to the opportunity to pay it after I had called the friendship off. It was a true power stance for him and I was tired of feeling my blood boil everytime I talked with him and nothing was brought up by him at all for the amount that was owed. To me it wasn’t about the money, it was about the principle – not taking accountability or responsibility and taking the friendship for granted. I was not respected and valued as as friend. I am a good person and felt it was time to take a stance against these assholes who step all over good people like us. Funny – He insisted at paying me back after continuously texting me and I finally told him that if it will make him feel better to send the cheque in the mail. That was 6 months ago and no cheque. Turns out he needed the money for his cocaine habit he had to keep up. Oh well. My advice – go ahead and lend the money – which is a true test of friendship – if they pay it back – they are worth keeping. If they do not – you will know they were never a friend to begin with. I am glad I was able to see this through this unfortunate way.

]]> By: purple http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html#comment-63804 purple Sun, 11 Dec 2011 04:10:06 +0000 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/?p=871#comment-63804 for your peace of mind, give it as financial assistance whatever you can afford, sort of a compromise; tell your friend to just pay when he is able to. although at the back of your mind, it would not be returned. then just observe..or maybe simply forget all about it.. expect a return engagement because there are people who abuse..then if it seems to appear that way, this particular friend maybe beginning to be a pain in your neck....think it over for your peace of mind, give it as financial assistance whatever you can afford, sort of a compromise; tell your friend to just pay when he is able to. although at the back of your mind, it would not be returned. then just observe..or maybe simply forget all about it.. expect a return engagement because there are people who abuse..then if it seems to appear that way, this particular friend maybe beginning to be a pain in your neck….think it over

]]> By: denise http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html#comment-58037 denise Tue, 22 Nov 2011 18:37:26 +0000 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/?p=871#comment-58037 I am in this situation now. I suggest when weighing the option of loaning someone some money you should think about if they had the money to pay back then they would not be asking you for it. Also think about the fact that there are other options. One could set up a payment plan, they could take out a loan, they could exaust other options. Think about the what would they do if you were not here or around? How would they get the money? They will find a way. Also you should think about the amount of money you are trying to lend out. Can you really afford it if they dont give it back, i COULDN'T. Luckily I did the transaction on my card and was able to dispute the charge with the bank. So i basically took legal action. But you have to weigh if that is worth it or not. My advice, if you have to ponder it a lot and worry if you are going to get it back, you might not want to loan the money. Go with your gut! Good Luck. I am in this situation now. I suggest when weighing the option of loaning someone some money you should think about if they had the money to pay back then they would not be asking you for it. Also think about the fact that there are other options. One could set up a payment plan, they could take out a loan, they could exaust other options. Think about the what would they do if you were not here or around? How would they get the money? They will find a way. Also you should think about the amount of money you are trying to lend out. Can you really afford it if they dont give it back, i COULDN’T. Luckily I did the transaction on my card and was able to dispute the charge with the bank. So i basically took legal action. But you have to weigh if that is worth it or not.

My advice, if you have to ponder it a lot and worry if you are going to get it back, you might not want to loan the money. Go with your gut!

Good Luck.

]]> By: dan http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html#comment-55718 dan Wed, 16 Nov 2011 21:55:54 +0000 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/?p=871#comment-55718 cause damage to property which amounts to a similar value that the person owes you, just make sure you are smart - dont get caught. If they wont pay up atleast you'll get satisfaction of knowing they have to cough that money up for something hahah cause damage to property which amounts to a similar value that the person owes you, just make sure you are smart – dont get caught. If they wont pay up atleast you’ll get satisfaction of knowing they have to cough that money up for something hahah

]]> By: googler http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html#comment-41949 googler Sun, 11 Sep 2011 06:24:00 +0000 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/?p=871#comment-41949 Thanks for this helpful tips. I am having problems now asking my friends to pay back the money the owe me. Thanks for this helpful tips.
I am having problems now asking my friends to pay back the money the owe me.

]]> By: Mr M Afzal http://fitzvillafuerte.com/how-to-make-friends-pay-back-the-money-they-owe-you.html#comment-41007 Mr M Afzal Sat, 03 Sep 2011 16:28:09 +0000 http://fitzvillafuerte.com/?p=871#comment-41007 Hi here's my story. I sold a brand new laptop to my cousin 2 years ago. I did not take any profit from him. It had a years warranty which is now expired. In the 2nd year of ownership his daughter broke the laptop by dropping it on the floor. He came back to me saying send it to the manufacturer to get it fixed but the warranty has expired. So he gave it to a local shop who further screwed it up. So he came back to me pleading that his daughter needs a laptop to do her homework. Being a cousin I lend him my laptop until his gets fixed. It's been over a month now. I talked to him a couple of days ago and he was blaming me for his broken laptop saying that when he purchased it with a warranty and it should get it fixed frm them and no mention of my laptop. Iv asked for my laptop back number of times, by phone and text but he says he will but says I am in the wrong bcos I didn't send it to the manufacturer to get it fixed, how can I the warranty has expired and I think accidental damage was not covered anyway. Iv got the proof of where I purchased my laptop. Iv got proof of our text chats asking for laptop back. How can I get it back? It's worth £250. What advice would you give me? Thank you in advance. Afzal Hi here’s my story.

I sold a brand new laptop to my cousin 2 years ago. I did not take any profit from him. It had a years warranty which is now expired. In the 2nd year of ownership his daughter broke the laptop by dropping it on the floor. He came back to me saying send it to the manufacturer to get it fixed but the warranty has expired.

So he gave it to a local shop who further screwed it up. So he came back to me pleading that his daughter needs a laptop to do her homework. Being a cousin I lend him my laptop until his gets fixed. It’s been over a month now. I talked to him a couple of days ago and he was blaming me for his broken laptop saying that when he purchased it with a warranty and it should get it fixed frm them and no mention of my laptop.

Iv asked for my laptop back number of times, by phone and text but he says he will but says I am in the wrong bcos I didn’t send it to the manufacturer to get it fixed, how can I the warranty has expired and I think accidental damage was not covered anyway.

Iv got the proof of where I purchased my laptop. Iv got proof of our text chats asking for laptop back. How can I get it back? It’s worth £250. What advice would you give me?

Thank you in advance.
Afzal

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